HibachiSniper

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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from Alesia in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    I originally planned to start full time no earlier than a year on HRT. I work remotely so hiding things from my company was easy but after going all out to make sure they would not notice when they had me fly up for the christmas party I realized I never wanted to do that again even if I had to find another job so I kind of jumped the gun on the plan lol. Luckily things went well and I didn't get fired for it.
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from Rexxie in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Glad to see people doing well!
    I've mostly lurked this thread since Bun first posted it, honestly it was an enormous help to me in finding myself. I finally accepted who I am in late March last year but there were people I knew IRL that I wasn't ready to come out to who knew this handle and I was paranoid. I've been on HRT for ~11 months now and went full time living as a woman near the beginning of this year but had forgotten about this thread for a bit. I want to thank Bun for starting this thread years ago and everyone else who's participated. Without it I think I would have been in denial even longer and it's bad enough I kept myself in denial till I was 30 already. <3
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Inciatus in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Oh goodness that is amazing! I'm really happy for you and how quickly you were able to start full time. Most of us have moved beyond this thread to discord servers. *squeezes*
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from Rexxie in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Glad to see people doing well!
    I've mostly lurked this thread since Bun first posted it, honestly it was an enormous help to me in finding myself. I finally accepted who I am in late March last year but there were people I knew IRL that I wasn't ready to come out to who knew this handle and I was paranoid. I've been on HRT for ~11 months now and went full time living as a woman near the beginning of this year but had forgotten about this thread for a bit. I want to thank Bun for starting this thread years ago and everyone else who's participated. Without it I think I would have been in denial even longer and it's bad enough I kept myself in denial till I was 30 already. <3
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from Rexxie in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Glad to see people doing well!
    I've mostly lurked this thread since Bun first posted it, honestly it was an enormous help to me in finding myself. I finally accepted who I am in late March last year but there were people I knew IRL that I wasn't ready to come out to who knew this handle and I was paranoid. I've been on HRT for ~11 months now and went full time living as a woman near the beginning of this year but had forgotten about this thread for a bit. I want to thank Bun for starting this thread years ago and everyone else who's participated. Without it I think I would have been in denial even longer and it's bad enough I kept myself in denial till I was 30 already. <3
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Alesia in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    TL;DR I've been full time for well over a month.  Had a date with the one male that I've ever had feelings for which turned out well.  I pass only sometimes but I get compliments both to my face and to my friends.    So id say things are going well.
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Alesia in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Well, an update I suppose.
     
    Texas did not go how I thought it would.  Both people I was there to visit ended up coming out to me as trans in different ways as well as mixed in with some relationship drama that was going on between them at the time....they weren't out to each other either. 
     
    Things happened and I ended up driving from Texas to Washington to have the transman stay with me.  So far Nate has been fun to have around and is getting close to starting hormones himself.  While I'm still firmly in the attracted to girls camp we have a sort of relationship and having someone to dork around with or blow off sexual needs without crossing personal boundaries has been good. 
     
    I had my trimonthly check up and I adjusted what time I was taking my pills and got my blood tested.  Jury is still out but I'm aiming to get bioidentical hormone levels after this round of testing.  Weight is down slightly because of how much better my diet has been as well as having an exercise partner.
     
    Also "inherited" Nate's girl clothes and since our sizings are similar almost everything fit.  Girl jeans + pink flannel has become my go-to for public.  As well as my hair back in a pony tail decorated with ribbon.  At home of course I have a nice selection of dresses.
     
    Overall a wild ride but things are looking up for now.
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Dlur in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Empathy, compassion, and understanding are in short order throughout most of the world.  Thankfully this thread has about 100 pages out of the current 105 pages that are chock full of those three aforementioned things that are so lacking in the world beyond.  This thread has been one of the most honest, compassionate, beautiful things I've ever witnessed on the Internet.  It's what keeps me coming back to it.  
     
    And regarding Miko, I'd really rather we keep the ratio of compassion to bullshit in this thread at the really amazing level it's been at for years and not ruin it with memes and fuckery.  So basically, if you don't have something nice, supportive, compassionate, emotionally honest, intellectually honest, or at the very least honestly inquisitive to say then please go elsewhere.
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Private_Miros in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    This is what I don't get from people. How can they not imagine what any person in a difficult situation, be it physically, mentally or socially (or all three, as, well... here) must be getting in terms of stupid comments? That things that might be funny once, twice, maybe trice, are never funny the sevenhundreth time?
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Alesia in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    To put it simply, not many of us (as in trans people) have the energy to deal that kind of interaction.  Many of us also deal with those kind of attitudes day in and out, even from our own families.  It's even cost people their jobs and lives.  It's not about political correctness, its about fatigue.  When you catch enough shit for so long from so many people all saying the same things, you would start to become intolerant to it too. 

    We do make light of our particular issues though.  (See subreddits like  /r/transgendercirclejerk).  However you must clue yourself in to the tone of the conversation.  This thread has helped many of us in this community come to terms with ourselves, or figure out what was wrong with us in the first place.  It's very much a support thread with a side of education, most replies are just respectful to those involved, not a thread with many worn out memes that do little more then annoy at best.  I've called myself a "filthy tranny" in jest (though I'm neither filthy or a transvestite [trans people aren't transvestites just fyi]).  Like with all things though, there is a time and place.  If you have questions then feel free to ask them...normally or respectfully. I'd prefer that this thread stay the way that it has for 100+ pages now.   We can shit post attack helicopter memes elsewhere.
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    HibachiSniper reacted to BiggieD61 in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    KISS method is the best way to start, then add on things as you have mastered the basics.  There are over 10-20  good ways to lose weight, so the method is not really the problem - it's the discipline to follow the method day by day.  Pick your plan, and learn to follow it day by day - just keep focusing on following your plan for THAT day - not tomorrow's plan or trying to make up for yesterday's screw up. 
    The biggest mistake people make when trying to make a life change, is changing 3 or 4 bad habits simultaneously - and it rarely works.  Failure in any one of the multiple changes will allow your subconscious to convince you that it is impossible to succeed in ANY OF THEM.  That's why untold hordes of people join a gym on January 2nd, got for a week or two - miss a few days, get depressed and never go back.  They are trying to diet, exercise, firm up their bodies, stop smoking or drinking - all at once, and it's too hard for a regular person to exert that much self discipline all at once.
    Just pick one thing that you can do that will make a positive change.  Try and do it every day for 30 days, 60 is better, so that it becomes a habit.  Once you have built one successful habit, it is so much EASIER to build a second one.  The trick is to build them one at a time.  We don't ERASE bad habits, our brains don't work that way - we need to OVERWRITE the space that was the bad habit with a new good habit.
     
    Alesia - I know you feel down because your family is not giving you what you need, and frankly they might never give you that.  So what can you do?  Feeling sad isn't helping you, it just allows you to feel pity for yourself - and that is not gonna get you to where you want to go.  Look at it from their view point, you are not giving them what they want/need either, at least from their current perspective.  Basically you need to do this thing without expecting their help or support, after you have become what you wish to become, then maybe you can come to a new understanding with them ... or not.  The successful people I have met were not waiting on anyone's permission or approval to move ahead with their lives.  Whether your dad calls you son for the rest of your life is something you have NO control over - other than to not speak to him - same for your mom.  It would be nice if they treated you how you liked, but if they have no history of doing that, why would you expect that to change?  Controlled Anger is a powerful tool for change, it can focus you to achieve what you might not otherwise do.  Use these disappointments to fuel your commitment to moving forward, it's better than the alternative.
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from BiggieD61 in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    I don't think that's bad advice but speaking from experience if I had tried to count carbs and other things as well as calories when I was starting on reducing my calorie intake I would have found it overwhelming and probably said to hell with all of it. For me at least there's a lot to be said for keeping it simple, I generally try not to load up on carbs like crazy but as long as I'm doing good on calories I'm not too worried about it. I've kept up a 1.5lb/week average loss for 6 months now with just calorie counting, trying to eat more vegetables as a general rule, and trying to take a walk (at least 10 min or so) every day (I don't have an active job or very active hobbies). I have found that cooking more often does make it a lot easier to hit my calorie target (crock pots are an amazing tool for any lazy cooks like me).
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    HibachiSniper reacted to OOPMan in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    One thing I've learned is that family aren't necessarily the people you're related to. Those are just relatives.
    Real family are the people that come into your life and stay there that accept you for all your failings, quirks and oddities and help you be a better person.
    Obviously, it's nice if your relatives can fit this mould but it's not a requirement. For me and my wife, it's not the case. But we have each other and we have various close friends and that's all you really need imho...
    That said, being completely alone is pretty horrible (And I say this as an introvert that generally finds people tedious to talk to when they're not on the other side of a screen...)
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from Dlur in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    I did the same thing but was thinking I'd wait till Bun posted then post it as a response. Should have figured someone here would post it before then. 
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from Dlur in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    I did the same thing but was thinking I'd wait till Bun posted then post it as a response. Should have figured someone here would post it before then. 
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Dlur in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    I saved that comic just so I could post it here.  OOP beat me to it
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from CiDisguise in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    I'm so sorry. If you haven't already seen it the ACLU is jumping on this and they are looking for service members to get in touch with them. I wish there was more I could do, this is beyond unacceptable.
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from Dlur in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Those days happen, the important thing is to try and get back on track the next day. I used to beat myself up about doing that then go "screw it" and end up messing up 3-4 days in a row. Since I've started letting myself slide for a bad day and focusing on doing well the next one instead it's helped a lot. I do recommend logging everything once you start logging though. I've found if I skip logging some things or logging for a day it turns into a habit of not logging pretty quickly, that could just be me though.
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from BiggieD61 in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Glad it went well! I'd recommend MyFitnessPal for the tracking. It's free and there's phone apps too. I've been using it for food/calorie tracking and it's been a big help with losing weight. Some features are paid but the free features have been fine for me. 
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Inciatus in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    That sounds rough, I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.
    Stress can be really hard with eating and diets I know I stress eat quite a bit. One thing that has helped me with that is when I'm really stressed and would stress eat I go walk a mile or two and that normally helps relax me and clear my head. Losing weight is hard and requires quite a bit or work and dedication to maintain it. Don't try to lose it too fast or you'll just make yourself miserable and only lose a bit of weight and then give up and likely gain it all back. A little bit of cheat good is also helpful just don't go overboard. You can do it!
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    HibachiSniper got a reaction from BiggieD61 in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Glad it went well! I'd recommend MyFitnessPal for the tracking. It's free and there's phone apps too. I've been using it for food/calorie tracking and it's been a big help with losing weight. Some features are paid but the free features have been fine for me. 
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Alesia in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    Doctors appointment went surprisingly well.  I'm stuck at 304 pounds probably due to stress and hormones being crazy but my triglycerides fell quite a bit, my liver function is back to normal, my Estrogen is in female range, and my T is a whole 8.35 or something like that (bottom of male range is like....350 or something).  At least my weight is "steady" not gaining.
     
    As for the therapist...she is actually good.  I am always deeply skeptical with therapists/counselors after the horrible experiences I've had in the past.  I managed not to cry through it but a lot of deeply wounding stuff was talked about, and my current situation.  I calmed down a bit after being able to vocalize stuff.
     
    I will be keeping a food, drink, and activity log to try and more consciously keep track of what I'm doing. 
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    HibachiSniper reacted to Inciatus in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    That seems like it would be a bit long to go, an inefficient use of time and money that you dont have, and, unless the relationship you are currently in is open, immoral. I can understand wanting me time and being able to just worry avout yourself but that seems an awfully poor way to do it.
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    HibachiSniper reacted to AnArmyofBun in Bun's thread of Transitional Cataloging and discussion (and shenanigans).   
    The man can't keep me locked up.
    Gotta get head somehow.
    Keepin my peeps safe.
    My house is on fire.  I'm 2 hot.
    Hey yeah we're doing okay.  We've settled into new mexico and are living life one day at a time.  Keeping up as we can.  Saving here and there.  Scraping and stuff.  But we're doing okay.  Also yeah that will happen.  Nipple sensitivity all that..Mood stabilizers help a lot with the swings if you can get them via your shrink.  Everything kinda blew up for a while. It took me a Really long time to heal.  But, I'm alright now for the most part.