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  1. http://m.startribune.com/trump-to-bar-transgender-individuals-from-armed-forces/436728443/?section=%2F I'm sitting here at my desk, with loads to do but no will to do anything except wonder how completely screwed I am.
  2. Hello everyone! I've been taking a brief vacation into the past of late and accordingly haven't been getting those wonderful email updates for the thread. Sorry that I'm a little behind, but I wanted to weigh in on a few things. You seem to write things to this effect quite frequently, Alesia. I have to wonder what always seems to lead you here almost as though this were some sort of foregone conclusion. You have so many options in life, and I don't think it's a good idea to always assume that whatever might go wrong next will just invariably drop you this low. It seems to me that it might be a good idea for you to find another hobby that isn't in any way connected to your pursuit of a significant other. I know that you have quite a drive to be in a relationship, and that's fine, but it shouldn't be the entire focus of your life. Think forward a bit: what will you do with your time if you do come across someone who is absolutely perfect for you? There's too many hours in a day to fill with tea and biscuits. Perhaps the root of your problems isn't the lack of someone to carry you through your faults, but a lack of willingness to carry yourself for a while. We all need help sometimes, but becoming completely reliant on it won't help you reach your dreams, whatever or wherever they may be. Allowing yourself to have a bit of confidence and control without judgement or shame might do a lot of good in your life. Now that's just not true. I'm on the outskirts of Spokane, and I don't have a choice about it. Being even remotely near Seattle is quite a step up in terms of middle-of-nowhereitude, and that city is chock-full of people with unique and interesting thoughts, ideas, and opinions. Why not think of these things less as some useless, archaic call for a mate and more as a form of artistry? You clearly have a lot of passion for these things, and there's no reason to relegate them to just being used to attract someone. Why not let yourself enjoy these things for what they are? If they really are something you find satisfying you might even be able to make a business out of them. The way that you describe things, it seems like you really do feel like you're just... stuck. Like the world is just whirling around you and you've no agency do anything about it. Please don't forget that confidence isn't everything, and there are many ways to achieve it. One of the great joys of life is venturing into the unknown and exploring what you find there. The lack of confidence is no reason not to just put one foot in front of the other- the things we've never thought to do are often the most interesting. Embrace this. Understand where that fear comes from, and do everything in your power not to let it hold you down. I can absolutely understand why this would cause you stress, but nothing should stop you from blazing a trail forward on your own merits. You have what it takes, whether it seems that way or not. As for dieting, I don't have a whole lot to add to what's already been said. Just make sure that in addition to counting calories, you're also ensuring that you're getting appropriate amounts of the assorted nutrients that one generally gets from food. When you're working to control how much you eat, that can take more effort that it usually does. Additionally, some regularly scheduled low-impact exercise is a good idea. Swimming or bicycling an hour a day three times a week, for example, is a great place to start. Keeping to a schedule really does make it easier to get used to, as well. Standard disclaimers about not being a doctor, lawyer, or omnipotent space-faring creature apply.
  3. Some stuff which might be of interest to those following the stories of the minor characters on the sidelines: TL;DR: Everything is as perfect as can be. Had ice cream while surrounded by adorable puppies.
  4. They have. SOCv7 is far, far less restrictive in pretty much all regards.
  5. Just returned from my friendly local medical facility! I've got a referral to a therapist, and the enthusiastic support of my primary care provider. I'm absolutely ecstatic over how well that appointment went. I know this is about to get immensely more complex, seeing as I live and work within a giant bureaucracy, but this moment, right now, is simply amazing.
  6. Some very exciting developments: Earlier this month, a document finally made it clear of government bureaucracy: AFPM2016-36-01, Air Force Policy Memorandum for In-Service Transition for Airmen Identifying as Transgender. As an active member of the United States Air Force, this is of immense importance to me. Earlier today, I spoke to a chaplain, discussing at length my identity, experiences, and anticipated challenges. All in all, I felt this was an extremely productive and uplifting experience, and I left with more resources and aid than I began my day with. I've just scheduled an appointment for Thursday with my primary care provider to discuss my situation. I don't honestly expect that much simply because this is going to be completely new ground for most everyone involved, but at least the ball will be rolling. As an added bonus, I suspect I'll be enjoying a persistent panic as Thursday rolls nearer. I hate the unknown...
  7. I, too, was absolutely crushed to learn that Bun hasn't had lutefisk.
  8. I'll admit, it's pretty polarizing. I suspect that having grown up eating it, I've acquired a bit of a tolerance. It's pretty nice with butter.
  9. Grumbles about how you don't understand the joy of shovelling a driveway while eating buttered lutefisk
  10. A minor technical point: I suspect I was insufficiently clear earlier. There's no surgery involved here. Nothing more dramatic than holding a little estrogen tablet under one's tongue every morning needs to happen. Puberty doesn't have to be a 1-time thing. As someone who's had a slight hormonal imbalance for years, I can attest that it takes remarkably little to get started, as well. The rest of your post ties back into your first, and I'll address that when I'm not at work.
  11. I'll preface proceeding with this line of inquiry by noting that this is largely irrelevant to the larger question, which will require a more thorough answer. That said, I'm enjoying making this case and will continue. Consider the situation of a cis woman who can't have children for reasons beyond her control. Does that make her breasts defective? I certainly wouldn't say so. Consider that from a biological angle, anyone who has had a hysterectomy is in essentially the same situation as, say, Bun. There is no appreciable functional difference at that point. Does that make a survivor of endometrial cancer less of a woman? Less complete? Less purposeful? I doubt that you or any other reasonable person would make the case for that.
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